(photo taken in Mexico this past winter while we were there shooting a lovely, tropical destinaton wedding!)
Adam & I had been dating only a little while, and so far, I liked what I saw. He was cute, kind, gentle, manly, outdoorsy, and successful. We had so many things in common, especially our love of the outdoors.
One day he took me on a walk. I would say hike…but I don’t know that Ive ever been an accomplished hiker, as I complain for the first 20 minutes of every hike until I get warmed up. However, this walk was in the Mountains in Waterton, so perhaps it still can be called a hike. Sure. So, Adam took me on a hike. It was an easy hike & we took our time just talking, laughing & stopping to look at scenery. It was a lovely day & a lovely time together. I think those moments are the best…the ones where you can just be YOU, out in nature, calm and happy.
On the way back down from our hike, we chose a faster pace (keeping in mind my ability to hike…this pace was not crazy fast), as we were both hungry & wanted to go for lunch. As we were walking, we passed a older guy heading down as well. He was at least 80 years old & all alone. Just slowly walking along with the biggest, oldest video camera I have ever seen resting on his shoulder. It was seriously huge! We had a video camera when I was 5 years old that was huge & this thing looked WAY bigger! I took note of him, thought he was adorable & wondered what his story was.
Not Adam. Adam slowed his pace & started talking with the man. Asked him about his video camera…and what he was capturing (flowers). Adam is a lover of all things nature & can pretty much do any bird call & is excellent at naming flowers and such. Adam talked with him about nature, his family, history, etc. Because of his slow pace, when we were walking beside him, our pace was also very slow. It would have taken us about an hour to get down, but pacing with this older man, the walk down took about 3 hours. I knew in that moment, when Adam put his own needs (our other plans & his hunger!) aside, to do something as simple & genuinely kind as visit with a sweet, lonely old man for 3 hours….that he was a keeper. That my heart would be safe with him. That my feelings & needs would always matter to him. That he could teach me so much about unselfish love.
For he knew already what most of us spend our life learning. Money doesnt matter, things don’t matter……people are what matter.