It all started with me helping my sister Krystal (a lovely chartered accountant with a tendency to hang onto ever.last.thing) gut & pack for a 3 year move across the ocean with her husband and infant son. Her life had to fit into 5 bags & she had 8 lotions from 6 years ago, among many other “treasures”. You can see how she needed my help.
Now, I am known in our family as the queen gutter. My own family members judge me as I admire my son’s artwork & then sneakily later toss it into the fireplace. Sometimes I take a photo so that I can immortalize it forever, and other times I just toss it. I am a big believer that the joy is in the creating & not in the keeping/hoarding. Not once have I gone through my large memory box from my childhood & admired the drawings I made when I was 3. I think one or two drawings kept from each “age” growing up is tons. Anyways, my family members enlist me to help them gut & pack & organize…because anyone who can heartlessly through away their own child’s creation without blinking an eye (but rather finding joy in keeping clutter down), is someone who can come in handy.
My sister, sisterinlaw & I were all going through things, and apparently I kept saying “well if no one wants it, just burn it”. Apparently this was an odd thing to say, seeing as it was a couch. In my defence, it was a well used couch showing significant signs of wear. Nobody on kijiji wanted it…to me, the logical choice was to burn it. I guess not everyone’s mind goes there first.
As we looked at other things throughout the house, I apparently said it a few times. Once about a lamp. “you cannot burn a lamp” they screeched. You sure can “I replied”. The lamp shade burns & if the metal is cheap enough it will sorta melt as well. Kind of.
“What all have you burned?” they inquired. I listed old mattresses that renters have left behind in our rental property, a couch, my son’s old expired infant car seat, coffee tables, lamps….the list went on and on. Why don’t you just take them to the dump if they are dump material?? They inquired. I have 2 reasons I replied. 1) I love the finality of a burn. Just like that it is gone. Into ashes & smoke. The clutter is gone (other then the obvious springs of both a couch & mattress, although my melt & get soft and with a farm machinery can be squished into a much smaller melted version of themselves). 2) while some would argue that burning things is bad for the environment, I would argue that I do 2 “gutting” burns a year (other then little junky things I can sneak into our fireplace without adam noticing) and I think that it is |FAR more environmentally conscious to save up the jink & do two 10 minute fires a year, then drive to the dump every time I have something I want to get rid of! Think of the emissions from my vehicle! I am actually being very considerate of the environment.
It was obvious. I could see the accusation in their eyes. They saw right through me. I just love to burn things. I love to see the flames, know that the lcutter is gone. Get my poker stick and make sure it is all getting burnt properly….. it is kind of a hobby I suppose. In great news, it ocmes in handy in our every day winter life, as I am an expert fire maker and can get our fireplaces fired up anytime for nice, cozy family time.
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